Why did I get married?

12 05 2009

Don’t look back and ask why, look back and ask why not

A very valuable lesson to learn …

Interesting quote from the movie ‘Why did I get married?’
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.

There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. ‘Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it’s not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I’m crazy about her because she’s also understanding, intelligent, tender – so many things that my spouse is not.’

Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let’s say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: ‘I broke my arm yesterday, hahahaha . . …’

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That’s only 20% of what you don’t have.

Don’t throw away the 80% that you already have!

That’s not all. Add to your spouse’s 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I’m not just talking about marriage.

I’m talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he’s missing? ‘They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they’ve got personal videos!’

I guarantee you’ll be miserable for the entire trip! Don’t live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class — because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!





SCAM by KWSP

29 10 2008

This is another method for KWSP to steal our money!

Remember during Budget 2008 announcement last yr, our Finance Minister (cum PM) announced that in order to assist KWSP members to reduce the burden in housing load repayment, KWSP will allow monthly withdrawal from members’ A/C II for the purpose?
Sounds like a nice goodies!

When you apply for the monthly withdrawal, you only need to provide KWSP yr housing loan & instalment details from yr bank and the bank a/c # you like KWSP to bank the monthly withdrawal into it. KWSP will approve your application based on the available amt in yr A/C II and compute the withdrawal period by dividing the approved amt with the monthly instalment amt. Application process takes about a month and you will receive the monthly payout promptly into yr bank a/c!

Well everything appear to be nice and good. It was indeed a noble plan until you take to close look at yr KWSP Statement!

The withdrawal plan is actually a SCAM!

This is how the KWSP SCAM works…….

Assuming you have RM100,000 in yr A/C II and yr housing loan’s monthly instalment is RM2000/mth.
KWSP will approve yr application of withdrawal from yr A/C II of RM100,000 and pay you RM2000/mth for the next 50mths. Everything appears to be in order BUT…….

What KWSP didn’t highlight to you is that when the application was approved, the TOTAL AMT (RM100,000) is removed from yr A/C II! It appears to be transfered to an unknown a/c to effect the monthly payment from therein.

The impact to the member are as follows :-

1. You just lost RM100,000 from yr A/C II. Assuming the KWSP Dividend is 5%, you will lose >RM4,000 in dividend during the 1st year. Based on the above example you will will lose >RM10,000 over the 50 mths period!

2. There is no statement to account for the amt approved vs amt paid, hence you would need to keep the monthly payment voucher to reconcile against the approved amt over the 50mths period to ensure there is no missing amt!

Assuming there are 100,000 members who innocently fell prey to this SCAM, based on the above example, KWSP would have cheated the members of 100,000 X RM10,000 = RM1,000,000,000 (that’s RM1 BILLION) over the period!

Furthermore, if you discovered this SCAM early and intend to stop the plan, KWSP would not allow any cancellation of the plan until at least 1 year. That would mean, once the application is approved, based on the above example, you would have lost >RM4,000.
100,000 members would have lost 100,000 X RM4,000 = RM400,000,000 (RM400 MILLION) in One Year!!!

If you’re a victim of this KWSP SCAM, would suggest you call yr MP to raise hell in Parliament!
For others who have not fallen into this SCAM, pls continue to watch out and alert yr family & friends about this.

HOW COULD THE GOVERNMENT ALLOW ITS AGENCY TASKED WITH SAFE GUARDING ITS CITIZEN’S HARD EARNED MONEY TO CHEAT ITS MEMBERS IN THIS MANNER???





Cancer

6 09 2008

Looking at the food I take daily, guess that I have the higher chance to get cancer…. sh*t! An email sent by a friend who knows that I can’t live without taking my fav food, I am seriously a meat person :(

Under weakly alkaline condition, cancerous cells will not be able to grow, or even to survive. Actual case studies, very important, please read patiently and pass this on. Even if you have read this before, you should reread this, especially the list of acidic and alkaline food stuff , best to read several time and remembered. Please read this article in full patiently, it will be helpful to your
health.

在弱鹼性體質的狀態下,癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。
實案例,很重要,請耐心看完,請轉寄哦!! 即使看過了還是要再看,尤其下面的酸鹼性食物最好多看幾次,就可以記住了 請耐心看完這篇文章,對自身健康很有幫助

More that 30 years ago, Mr Zhang who works in the public sale department of a Taipei Brewery, participated in the brewery overseas study selection examination, and passed with flying colours. Before going overseas during the physical examination at a public hospital, it was discovered that he has a tumour growth in his lung of the size of a child’s feast, and therefore was not able to go overseas to study.
三十多年前有一位服務於公賣局台北啤酒廠的張先生,參加該啤酒場選派技術人員到國外深造的考試,以優異的成績及格。
在出國前經某公立醫院體檢發現,罹患有像小孩拳頭大小的肺部腫瘤,因而不能出國。

The greatly disappointed Mr Zhang has always been suspicious that the diagnosis was wrong. So he went to another hospital for a check-up, the result confirm that previous diagnosis was not in error.
張先生非常失望之餘,一直懷疑診斷有誤;於是再到另一家醫院檢查,結果還是證實原來的診斷並無錯誤。

For the youthful and healthy Mr Zhang to be stricken down with such terminal illness, in his despair, he rang his old class mate who at the time was Taidong County Government, Huangsun County Mayor’s secretary, Mr Wei. Mr Weil rushed to Taipei during his rest day on a Sunday to see Mr Zhang.Mr Zhang discussed with Mr Wei in details his despair and pessimism, and entrusted his friend regarding his affairs after his death. Coincidentally, Mr Wei was a good friend of Dr Lu Geling, who was in charge of the Maijie Hospital, 1945-55, and specialised in the clinical research into cancer cases.
當時年輕力壯的張先生得到這樣的絕症,在人生絕望之餘,多次打電話給當時任職台東縣政府黃順興縣長機要秘書的魏姓同學。 魏姓同學便利用星期日趕到台北和張先生見面張先生向魏同學詳述相關絕望的詳情和悲觀感受,並請位同學協助其後事,恰逢魏同學與前任馬偕醫院院長194955年專精於癌症臨床研究的呂革令博士係知交好友。

He immediately suggested that Mr Zhang went and see Dr Lu for treatment. At first, Mr Zhang said he preferred not to see anymore doctors, so as to add further to his misery. But Mr Wei told him that he had telephone Dr Lu before to seek his advice and arrange an appointment. Mr Zhang felt obligated and went with Mr Wei to meet Dr Lu.
當即建議前往訪求呂博士醫治,起初張先生說不願再看醫生,以免徒增傷悲; 但魏同學說先前已以電話請教過呂博士並安排好時間,張先生只好偕同前往呂博士住處造訪。

When Dr Lu met with Mr Zhang, Dr Lu said: ‘ Mr Wei is a friend and introduce you and I to get to know each other. This is destiny. Thank you. Let me ask you do you know why is cancer referred to as terminal illness?’ Both Mr Zhang and Mr Wei did not how to answer. Dr Lu explained: ‘There are only two approaches taken by human to treat cancer to date. The first is to destroy the source of the disease. The second is the increase the capability to fight the disease.
呂博士和張先生見面就說:「魏先生是我的好友,介紹你和我認識是我們緣份,感謝。我請教你:『癌為什麼叫絕症,你可知道嗎?」 張先生和魏先生都不知道如何作答。 呂博士又說:「人類醫治癌症到目前為止只有兩條路,第一條路是消滅病源,第二條路是增加抵抗力。

But the strange thing is that, cancer whether we use Cobalt 60 or other drug to destroy the cancer cells, however, before the cancer cells are killed, the good cells are destroyed first. On the other hand, no matter we use what nutrients or supplements, before the good cells have a chance to absorb them, the cancer cells have taken them up and it simply speeds up the grow of cancer. Therefore both approaches are doomed to failure, that is why cancer is
terminal.
Dr Lu continues: ‘Human being is most clever, they have successfully landed on the moon. But why is it no one ever question the above two approaches for treating cancer are nothing but self defeating dead-ends, try to seek out a third avenue?

但很奇怪的是,癌無論用鈷60或其他藥物去消滅癌細胞,可是癌細胞還沒被消滅,好的細胞卻先被殺死。另無論用什麼營養、補藥,好的細胞還未吸收,癌細胞卻先吸收、讓癌長得更快;因此可說上述兩條路都行不通、所以叫絕症。」
呂博士又說:「人類的聰明連登陸月球也都已經成功,但為什麼沒有人去懷疑上述兩條治癌的路是在鑽牛角尖,另外找第三條路?

When I was conducting clinical research in Majie Hospital , I had many opportunities to work with and being helped by many colleagues in the Hospital. I discovered that the blood tests of 100% of the cancer patients showed that the blood sample are acidic.
我以往在馬偕醫院做癌症临床實驗,並得院內各部同仁協助的機會,我發現癌症病人血液檢查的結果百分之百都是酸性反應。

Those Buddhist monks and nuns who are long term vegetarians and live very close to Nature, their blood are prevalently weakly alkaline and amongst them, there has yet to discover any cancer cases. Therefore, I boldly concluded that under weakly alkaline condition, cancer cells are not able to grow, or even to survive.

長期素食、且生活接近自然的佛寺僧尼,由於體質都偏屬優質弱鹼性,所以尚沒有發現罹患癌症的病例。因此我大膽的斷定在弱鹼性體質的狀態下,癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的

Mr Zhang, I would suggest that starting from now you reduce your Take more of the alkaline food. In addition you can take green algae and soup made from water chestnuts with shell, Modify your physical condition, and try seriously to have a regular life style which is close to Nature; If you can manage to stay alive for five years, you should have no
further problem. I wish you the best of luck.
Mr Zhang follow Dr Lu’s suggestion and seriously alter his eating
habits
intake of the acidic meaty dishes.

張先生我建議你從現在起少吃酸性的葷食類, 多吃鹼性食物,另外可吃綠藻和帶殼菱角湯, 改變你的體質,並勵行接近自然的良好生活規律;如果五年內不死、你就沒問題了,祝福你。」 張先生依照呂博士的建議,認真改變吃的習慣,

Every day, he ate green algae, drank chestnut soup, be optimistic and doing appropriate amount of exercise, and went back to the same public hospital for a check up. It was discovered that not only that the tumour did not increase in size, on the contrary it showed signs of shrinking, and surprised the hospital staff conducting the check-up as
a miracle. Five years later, the tumour s shrunk to such a state as to be almost disappear.
每天又吃綠藻、喝菱角湯,樂觀加上每天適當的運動,一年後再到同一公立醫院檢查結果,發現腫瘤不但沒有長大、反而已呈現萎縮狀態,遂令醫院檢查人員驚為奇蹟,五年後竟完全處於萎縮、至近於消失狀態。

After almost 40 years, presently Mr Zhang’s health is totally normal, and living a very pleasant life. Following Mr Zhang, a Mr Chen Tianshou, who was previously Head of the General Administration of the Taidong Provincial Hospital , was similarly diagnosed with lung cancer. When Mr Wei heard of this, he told Mr Chen of the experience of Mr
Zhang, and Mr Chen started to follow the instructions of Dr Lu to change his physical condition. The outcome was that he was able to recover fully from the cancer, just like Mr Zhang.

經過了將近四十年歲月,現在張先生的健康情況完全正常,生活起居甚為愉快。繼張先生之後,有位前台東省立醫院總務課長陳添壽先生,同樣得到肺癌;魏先生得知後將張先生的經過轉告陳添壽先生,陳先生乃依照呂博士的建議進行改變體質,結果與張先生同樣癒癌症。

At that time, Mr Lu and his family have emigrated to the United States. After the two cases, he returned to Taiwan and met up with Mr Wei. Mr Wei told Dr Lu about the experiences of Mr Zhang and Mr Chen, and suggested that let the two of them detailed their experiences to Dr Lu in person, so that Dr Lu could publish a report on his self cure body conditioning method. Dr Lu very humbly replied: ‘I am too old, besides, I do not have any clinical records of the
outcomes. I would ask that you tell your friends and relatives, if they are agreeable, then please continue this experience and spread the words

那時呂博士全家已移民美國,事後呂博士回來台灣再與魏先生見面時,魏先生將張先生和陳先生的經過告訴呂博士,並提議由他們倆位親自向呂博士陳述,請呂博士發表其改變體質之自療成果報告。
呂博士謙虛地回答說: 「我年事已大,且沒有臨床紀錄不能做為成果。請魏先生轉告親友,如果友人認同的話,請他們繼續做體驗並廣為宣導………。」
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One should take care of oneself but should also be caring about others, 85% of cancer patients have acidic in their physical condition

  • Blood of healthy persons is weakly alkaline in nature, with a pH of about 7.35 to 7.45
  • Babies’ blood is also weakly acidic
  • As adults mature their blood becomes more acidic in nature

關心自己也要關心別人,85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質

  • 健康人的血液是成弱鹼性的,約是pH7.357.45左右
  • 嬰兒也是屬於弱鹼性的體質
  • 成長期的成人有體質酸化的現象

According to a study of 600 cancer patients, of their bodily fluid, 85% of the patients are acidic . Therefore, how to maintain the weakly acidic nature of our body is the first step for moving far away from diseases.

根據一項六百位癌症病人體液分佈的研究,顯示85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質。因此,如何使體質維持在弱鹼性就是遠離疾病的第一步。

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Acidic physical conditions manifest itself in:

  1. Skin without luster
  2. Athlete’s foot
  3. Feeling tire even with very little exercise, and feeling sleep the moment one gets on to public buses
  4. Easily out of breath going up and down stair
  5. Fat and with lower stomach protruding,
  6. Move slowly and movement lethargic

酸性體質的生理表徵

  1. 皮膚無光澤。
  2. 香港腳。
  3. 稍做運動即感疲勞,一上公車便想睡覺。
  4. 上下樓梯容易氣喘
  5. 肥胖、下腹突出。
  6. 步伐緩慢、動作遲緩。


some sounds like me!
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Why does the body physical condition turn acidic?

1. Excessive intake of dairy acidic food

  • meat, dairy products, eggs, beef, ham, etc are acidic food
  • taking too much acidic food will cause the blood to become acidic and viscous, difficult to flow to the end of blood vessels, leading to cold feet or knee, stiff shoulders and insomnia.
  • When one is young and strong, taking suitable quantity of meat is appropriate, but older people it more suitable to have a diet which are primarily vegetables or small fish.


為什麼會形成酸性體質?
1- 過度攝取乳酸性食品

  • 肉類、乳酪製品與蛋、牛肉、火腿等皆屬於酸性食品。
  • 攝取過量的酸性食品血液會傾向酸性而變黏稠,不易流到細血管的末稍,而易造成手腳或膝蓋的冷寒症,以及肩膀僵硬和失眠等。
  • 年輕力壯時吃適量的肉類是對的,但老年人則以蔬菜或小魚為宜。

2. Irregularity in the pace of life will cause the body physical condition to become acidic

  • Irregular pace in life will lead to mental and physical stress
  • According to statistics, people who sleep late are more likely to have cancer than normal persons, by as much as 5 times.
  • Human beings originally lead a life with regular tempo in this world, it is not possible to store up sleep or food and not possible to change the order of living by mixing up days and nights.
  • Human organs are controlled by the autonomic nerves, and during day time it is mainly sympathetic nerves activities, and at night it is mainly the parasympathetic nerves which are functioning, If this order is disturbed and reversed, then diseases will result.


2- 生活步調失常會造成酸性體質

  • 生活步調失常會造成精神與肉體的壓力。
  • 據統計,晚睡者罹患癌症的機率比正常人高出五倍。
  • 人類本來就活在節奏的世界裡,無法事先儲備睡眠或飲食,也不能日夜顛倒。
  • 人體內臟受自律神經控制,白天主要是交感神經活動,晚上則由副交感神經工作,若使其錯亂及倒置,就亦百病滋生。

3. Emotion over tensed

  • Civilized society brings stresses
  • Job related or mental stresses
  • A person suffers mental stress, when the stress is removed and the person relaxes, sometimes this may lead to death, referred to as the syndrome of imperfect adrenal cortex function.

3- 情緒過於緊張

  • 文明社會會造成的壓力。
  • 工作上或精神上的壓力。
  • 當一個人承受精神壓力後,一旦緊張鬆弛,時會造成猝死,稱為潛在性副腎皮質機能不全症。


4. Physical Stress

  • Before any operation it would be necessary to check to see if the renal cortex does function normally. If the adrenal cortex is lacking, or if the stress imposed by the operation exceeded the ability of adrenal cortex to cope, it could lead to death or other undesirable impacts.
  • If it noted that patient’s face is puffy, it would be necessary to inquire in detail the patient’s medical history and medication status, for patients taking adrenal cortical hormone, extra care should be exercise when administering acupuncture.
  • Stress due to physical labour or exercise in excess, whole night card games, driving etc should be avoided as much as possible

4- 肉體的緊張

  • 動手術之前應先檢查腎上腺皮質機能是否正常。如果副腎皮質機能較差,或手術壓力遠超過副腎調整功能,則可能造成病人死亡或其他不良影響。
  • 若發現病患臉部浮腫,需詳加詢問病史及服藥狀況,為長期服用腎上腺皮質賀爾蒙者,施以針灸要特別注意反應。
  • 勞動或運動過度,通宵打牌、開車等壓力都應盡量避免。

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Appendix: Acidity/alkalinity of Common food stuff

  1. Strongly acidic food: egg yolk, cheese, cake make with white sugar or persimmon, mullet fish roe, dried cod.
  2. Mildly acidic food: ham, bacon, chicken meat, squid, pork, eel, beef, bread, wheat, butter, horse meat etc
  3. Weakly acidic food: white rice, peanut, beer, alcohol, oil fried tofu, sea weed, clam, octopus, catfish
  4. Weakly alkaline food: red bean, radish, apple, cabbage, onion, tofu etc.
  5. Mildly alkaline food: dried radish, soya bean, carrot, tomato, banana, orange, pumpkin strawberry, egg white, dried plum, lemon, spinach, etc.
  6. Strongly alkaline food: grape, tea leave, grape wine, kelp sprout, kelp, etc. Especially natural green algae which contain rich quantity of chlorophyll are very good alkaline health food, but tea should not be drunk in excess, and best to drink in the morning.


附錄:常見食物的酸鹼性

  1. 強酸性食品:蛋黃、乳酪、白糖做的西點或柿子、烏魚子、柴魚等。
  2. 中酸性食品:火腿、培根、雞肉、鮪魚、豬肉、鰻魚、牛肉、麵包、小麥、奶油、馬肉等。
  3. 弱酸性食品:白米、落花生、啤酒、酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤、章魚、泥鰍。
  4. 弱鹼性食品:紅豆、蘿蔔、蘋果、甘藍菜、洋蔥、豆腐等。
  5. 中鹼性食品:蘿蔔乾、大豆、紅蘿蔔、蕃茄、香蕉、橘子、南瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、檸檬、菠菜等。
  6. 強鹼性食品:葡萄、茶葉、葡萄酒、海帶芽、海帶等。尤其是天然綠藻富含葉綠素,是不錯的鹼性健康食品,而茶類不宜過量,最佳飲用時間為早上。




To my friends

1 07 2008

To My Friends Who Are………..SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.
But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it.
Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love’s only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.
給我單身朋友們, 愛就像一隻蝴蝶。越要追牠,卻越要逃避。
如果就隨牠自由的飛,牠會在你最不注意時飛向你。
愛使人快樂,卻常傷害人。但只有在你把愛給了一個真正值得付出的人時,是最珍貴的。
所以,花點時間去選擇最好的他/她吧

To My Friends Who Are…………NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn’t about becoming somebody else’s ‘perfect person.
It’s about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
給我那不是單身的朋友們, 愛不能使他/她成為一個’完美的人
它卻可以使你找到一個幫你成長的他/她

To My Friends Who Are…………PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say ‘I love you’ if you don’t care. Never talk about feelings if they aren’t there.
Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart.
Never look in the eye when all you do is lie.
The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn’t intend to catch her fall and it works both ways…
給我玩世不恭的朋友們, 如果你不在乎,不要說’我愛你’。如果他們不在時,不要討論自已的感受
不要涉足會使他人心碎的生活。 說謊時,不要看著眼睛。
最殘忍的事莫過於男人讓女人愛他,卻是逢場作戲。反之亦然…

To My Friends Who Are…………MARRIED
Love is not about ‘it’s your fault’, but ‘I’m sorry.
‘ Not ‘where are you’, but ‘I’m right here.
‘ Not ‘how could you’, but ‘I understand.
‘ Not ‘I wish you were’, but ‘I’m thankful you are.’
給我已婚的朋友們, 不要老是說’這是你的錯’,何不說說’對不起’。
不要老是問’你去哪裡了’,何不說說’我就在這兒等著你’。
不要老是問’你怎麼會這麼作?’,何不說說’我了解你’。
不要老是說’我希望你這麼做’,何不說說’我感謝你的一切’。

To My Friends Who Are…………ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
給我那已訂婚的朋友們, 要真正衡量包容心,不是看在一起幾年了,而是要看彼此的敬愛

To My Friends Who Are…………HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go.
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
給我心碎的朋友們, 心碎的時間和傷害的深度,完全取決於你自已。
難的是,如何從中學習,而不是從傷痛中爬起。

To My Friends Who Are…………NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don’t stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
給我所有天真的朋友們, 要如何戀愛?–就愛吧。不要欲言又止;要互相協調,不要太固執;要分享,且千萬不要有不公平;要了解,別命令;受傷後不要再記恨。

To My Friends Who Are…………POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
給我積極的朋友們, 看到你所愛的他/她和其他人很快樂使你心碎。但知道你所愛的他/她是和你在一起不快樂,令人更加的傷心。

To My Friends Who Are…………AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone.
It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you.
But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
給我害怕去承認的朋友們, 當你和他/她分手時,愛受到傷害
當他/她和你分手時,更是傷痛, 但傷害最深的是你所愛的他/她完全無法了解你的感受

To My Friends Who Are…………STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn’t worth it.
If he isn’t worth it now he’s not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now.
Let go…..
給我那還在等待的朋友們,人生最傷心的事,是你和他/她愛情長跑了多年,最後的結局卻不如所望。如果他/她現在讓你覺得不值得付出,那麼一年,甚至十年後,都不會值得付出的。讓他/她走吧

TO ALL MY FRIENDS…….
My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong, mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.
給我所有的朋友們, 我竭誠祝福你們愛著一個誠實、強壯、成熟、衷心、有衝勁、保護你、積極、值得付出和無私的他/她。





Where to be during an Earthquake

12 06 2008

Useful tips worth remembering. It may save your life

Boy! Is this ever an eye opener? Directly opposite of what we’ve beentaught over the years! I can remember in school being told to, ‘duckand cover’ or stand in a doorway during an earthquake. This guy’sfindings are absolutely amazing. I hope we all remember his survival method if we are ever in an earthquake!! !

Please read this and pass the info along to your family members; it could save their lives someday!

EXTRACT FROM DOUG COPP’S ARTICLE ON THE: ‘TRIANGLE OF LIFE’

My name is Doug Copp. I am the Rescue Chief and Disaster Manager of the American Rescue Team International (ARTI), the world’s most experienced rescue team. The information in this article will save lives in an earthquake.

I have crawled inside 875 collapsed buildings, worked with rescue teams from 60 countries, founded rescue teams in several countries, and I am a member of many rescue teams from many countries.

Iwas the United Nations expert in Disaster Mitigation for two years. I have worked at every major disaster in the world since 1985, except for simultaneous disasters.

The first building I evercrawled inside of was a school in Mexico City during the 1985earthquake. Every child was under its desk. Every child was crushed tothe thickness of their bones. They could have survived by lying downnext to their desks in the aisles. It was obscene, unnecessary and I wondered why the childrenwere not in the aisles. I didn’t at the time know that the childrenwere told to hide under something.

Simply stated,when buildings collapse, the weight of the ceilings falling upon the objects or furniture inside crushes these objects, leaving a space or void next to them. This space is what I call the ‘triangle of life’. The larger the object, the stronger, the less it will compact. The less the object compacts; the larger the void; the greater the probability that the person who is using this void for safety will not be injured.

The next time you watch collapsed buildings, on television, count the ‘triangles’ you see formed. They are everywhere. It is the most common shape, you will see, in a collapsed building.

TIPS FOR EARTHQUAKE SAFETY

1) Most everyone who simply ‘ducks and covers’ WHEN BUILDINGS COLLAPSE are crushed to death. People who get under objects, like desks or cars,are crushed.

2) Cats, dogs and babies often naturally curl up in the fetal position. You should too in an earthquake. It is a natural safety/survival instinct. You can survive in a smaller void. Get next to an object, next to a sofa, next to a large bulky object that will compress slightly but leave a void next to it.

3) Wooden buildings are the safest type of construction to be in during an earthquake. Wood is flexible and moves with the force of the earth quake. If the wooden building does collapse, large survival voids are created. Also, the wooden building has less concentrated, crushing weight. Brick buildings will break intoindividual bricks. Bricks will cause many injuries but less squashedbodies than concrete slabs.

4) If you are in bed during the night and an earthquake occurs, simply roll off the bed. A safe void will exist around the bed. Hotels can achieve a much greater survival rate in earthquakes, simply by posting a sign on the back of the door of every room telling occupants to lie down on the floor, next to the bottom of the bed during an earthquake.

5) If an earthquake happens and you cannot easily escape by getting out the door or window, then lie down and curl up in the fetal position next to a sofa, or large chair.

6) Most everyone who gets under a doorway when buildings collapse is killed. How? If you stand under a doorway and the door jamb falls forward or backward you will be crushed by the ceiling above. If the door jam falls sideways you will be cut in half by the doorway. In either case, you will be killed!

7) Never go to the stairs. The stairs have a different ‘moment of frequency’ (they swing separately from the main part of the building). The stairs and remainder of the building continuously bump into each other until structural failure of the stairs takes place.The people who get on stairs before they fail are chopped up by the stair treads â€?horribly mutilated. Even if the building doesn’t collapse, stay away from the stairs. The stairs are a likely part of the building to be damaged. Even if the stairs are not collapsed by the earthquake, they may collapse later when overloaded by fleeing people. They should always be checked for safety,even when the rest of the building is not damaged.

8) Get near the outer walls of buildings or outside of them if possible. It is much better to be near the outside of the building rather than the interior. The farther inside you are from the outside perimeter of the building the greater the probability that your escape route will be blocked.

9) People inside of their vehicles are crushed when the road above falls in an earthquake and crushes their vehicles; which is exactly what happened with the slabs between the decks of the Nimitz Freeway.The victims of the San Francisco earthquake all stayed inside of theirvehicles. They were all killed. They could have easily survived bygetting out and sitting or lying next to their vehicles. Everyonekilled would have survived if they had been able to get out of theircars and sit or lie next to them. All the crushed cars had voids 3 feet high next to them, except for the cars that had columns fall directly across them.

10) I discovered, while crawling inside of collapsed newspaper offices and other offices with a lot of paper that paper does not compact. Large voids are found surrounding stacks of paper.

Spread the word and save someone’s life… The Entire world is experiencing natural calamities so be prepared!

‘We are but angels with one wing, it takes two to fly’

In 1996 we made a film, which proved my survival methodology to becorrect. The Turkish Federal Government, City of Istanbul, University of Istanbul Case Productions and ARTI cooperated to film thispractical, scientific test. We collapsed a school and a home with 20mannequins inside. Ten mannequins did ‘duck and cover,’ and tenmannequins I used in my ‘triangle of life’ survival method. After thesimulated earthquake collapse we crawled through the rubble and enteredthe building to film and document the results. The film, in which Ipracticed my survival techniques under directly observable, scientificconditions, relevant to building collapse, showed there would have beenzero percent survival for those doing duck and cover.

There would likely have been 100 percent survivability for people usingmy method of the ‘triangle of life.’ This film has been seen bymillions of viewers on television in Turkey and the rest of Europe, andit was seen in the USA, Canada and Latin America on the TV program Real TV.





Being a mother

4 06 2008

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, ‘I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend
some time with you.’

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children
had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. ‘What’s wrong, are you well,’ she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

‘I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,’ I responded
‘just the two of us.’ She thought about it for a moment, and then said,
‘I would like that very much.’

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

‘I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,’ she said, as she got into the car. ‘They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.’

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

‘It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,’ she said.
‘Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,’ I responded.
During the dinner , we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, ‘I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.’ I agreed.

‘How was your dinner date?’ asked my wife when I got home. ‘Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,’ I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.

‘I love you, son’

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: ‘I love YOU’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some ‘other’ time.

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you’ve had a baby… somebody doesn’t know that once you’re a mother, ‘normal’ is history.

Somebody said you can’t love the second child as much as you love the first…somebody doesn’t have two or more children.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery…. somebody
never watched her ‘baby’ get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten. ..
or on a plane headed for military ‘boot camp.’

Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married…
somebody doesn’t know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in- law to
a mother’s heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother’s job is done when her last child leaves home…
somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don’t need to tell
her.. somebody isn’t a mother.

Pass this along to all the GREAT
‘mothers’ in your life and to everyone who ever had a mother.

This isn’t just about being a mother; it’s about appreciating the people
in your lives while you have them… no matter who that person is!

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes…your destiny.

‘Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle’.

ah ma~ I know I am useless, which never say “I love you” to you.





Happy Couples: What’s Their Secret?

23 08 2007
How is it that some couples seem to stay starry-eyed for years, and others let their sizzle, um… fizzle? Well, it appears that successful chemistry sustainers develop healthy coupled-up habits which allow them to keep their love alive and kicking. “People can have a lot of trouble staying close,” says Joyce Catlett, author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships. “They get into relationships and think they’re automatically going to know how to make everything work, but figuring out how to stay passionate together is really a skill.” But luckily, these are skills that anyone can learn. Here are six habits that you’d do well to adopt if you want your date to become your happily-ever-after mate.

By Kimberly Dawn Neumann




人生确实就是这么回事

22 08 2007

出生了,会笑了,断奶了,会跑了,上学了,会玩了,懂事了,初中了,恋爱 了,失败了,有希望了,上高中了,想学习了,又失败了,逐渐绝望了,却上大学了,一切都好了,没有人管了,抽烟了,喝酒了,打架了,处分了,老实了,学不进去了,只好恋爱了,甜蜜了,同居了,第一次也没了,吵架了,又和好了,又吵架了,就分手了, ;转眼毕业了,立马傻眼了,好歹工作了,挣钱了,花完了,看破红尘了,十年过去了,三十好几了,也该结婚了,说办就办了,孩子早有了,安定了,团结了,觉得幸福了,孩子长大了,我们也老了,孩子结婚了,不管老的了,生气了,生病了,突然觉悟了,不过也死了 ;!这就是我们的一生。 曾经在美国住过一阵子,他们的社区里,每到下班时间,就看到一家家的先生开车回来。回来后可没闲着,衣服一换,不是除草修自行车,就是遛狗整理庭院。夜幕低垂,全家一起看电视,很早就上床睡觉,很少人会去喝酒应酬。周末假日,不是在院子里除草、烤肉 5292;或在车库办个小型旧物拍卖,就是全家出门旅行。他们回家,是把心和身和爱,都一起放在家里。

反观我们这儿,卖命加班、努力应酬、拚命喝酒、用劲唱歌,把实验室当家、把PUB 当家、把朋友家当家 , 你的家只是摸黑回去了,管他是沙发是地板是浴室,倒头就睡。醒来迷迷糊糊的,梳洗一番又去上班了,没跟太太说上一句话,没跟孩子打过一个照面,搞不好跑错人家,你都不知道。做爸爸的如此,儿女上行下效也如此,做妈的心想,你们都不回来,我也出去吧! “家 “就变成了一个空壳子。不论你家谁是一家之主,不妨率先示范:

每周最多一晚去应酬;不管是谈生意,跟朋友聊天,或是跟主管笼络感情,一周最多一次,其余时间应该留给伴侣谈话,和孩子聊天,跟家人建立感情。※ 即使晚归,也要清醒;醉酒开车要重罚,真是一个福音,至少大家都不敢在夜里喝酒。最好是连出租车也拒载酒醉之人,说不定能挽救不少形同陌路的婚姻。因为 没喝酒,回到家,至少还能清醒的跟家人说说话。※ 回家以后,不以自己会赚钱自夸,照样乐在家事中;家事是全家人的事,在外奔波虽然很辛苦,但是在家忙碌,也不轻松 。互相体贴,付出爱心,随手做家事。※ 不要把一生心血精华卖给公司,留给家人的却是破铜烂铁;为公司卖命,赢得高薪与高职,确实很有成就感。但随着你的退休被淘汰,这些都成过眼云烟。然而你给家人的爱,却是一辈子不会变质,他们会回报你以更多的爱。( Be home with your heart)

看完这一封信,不知道你是否也和我一样有相同的感触,我们每个人似乎都将工作的顺位给颠倒了,总是工作第一、应酬第二,忽略了家庭的重要性。甚至未婚的年轻男女,也许因为过于卖命的工作,而失去了许多结交男女朋友的时间与机会,而已婚的男女&# 65292;亦常常忽略了家人的重要性,不要以为结了婚就是保证,殊不知现在离婚率这么高,每五对夫妻,就有一对离婚。也许我们都应该停下来想一想,我们工作的目的是为了什么?是为了改善目前的生活,让家人过好日子呢?是为了要让喜欢的人得到幸福而事先做好准备呢?还是毫无意义的工作,只因为自己已长大了?抑或是在权力和地位上的追求,满足自己的虚荣心?不要管任何 0154;怎么想,真实的面对你自己,正视你所要的是什么,也许将脚步放慢点,你会发现我们要的不仅是为了赚很多钱,而是为了自己的理想在努力奋斗,为了实现对你所爱的人的承诺,没有什么是不能舍得,因为有舍才有得。

(这是别人转发给我的,我觉得很有道理,人生确实就是这么回事。)